Dean of Studies | Mr Mason Hellyer

In recent publications, I have focused on the need for boys to be conscious in addressing their psychological wellbeing. Resilience is an integral part of this wellbeing that assists in giving boys the strength to cope with stress and hardship. I read a recent article (here) that looks at the changes that have occurred in society from our own upbringings in the 80s and 90s to those of our children. The notion of having anxious, stressed-out teenagers is certainly on the rise and may almost be considered a modern day stereotype. The obvious difference when comparing both generations is the unavoidable rise in digital media and portable technology. 

By and large, our children consistently compare themselves to an unlimited number of peers via social media. Never before have young people been able to curate a highly selective, desirable (and inaccurate) version of themselves, and put it out into the world for others to publicly view and judge. This creates an unrealistic ideal for our children for what their lives should look like, often leading to the feeling of being inadequate. In recent year level assemblies, I have been discussing the fact that the feeling of failure is a natural occurrence in normal, healthy adolescents and that they need to believe that these experiences will strengthen emotional wellbeing. The article concludes in suggesting the sweet spot of parenting psychologically robust kids: the freedom to be driven and to take on challenges in an anti-perfectionist way, with parents who support and encourage without rescuing, getting over-involved, or avoiding difficult things. I thought it was useful both as a teacher and as a parent. Similarly, like the Liz Ellis podcast a couple of  weeks ago, I think Neale Daniher has a great message to share on this topic, found here. 

Exams are now underway and I wish all students the best over this period. Students need to maintain high standards around personal presentation during this period with uniform and personal grooming. Years 11 and 12 students should not be presenting for exams unshaven or with aspects of their uniform missing. Getting the little things right at this time of the term is always a true sign of character. 

Take care.